Posted tagged ‘Gay’

Dear Straight Person:

November 5, 2008

Would you please stop referring to me as your friend? I’ve been meaning to ask you not to do it for awhile. I put it off at first because I didn’t want to hurt your feelings. I tried to make it clear by ignoring you and avoiding eye contact. Then I heard you tell someone that we’re friends, again, and I’m all, like, “What, your friend? Really?”

So, for the record, I’m not your friend. Don’t make it complicated. It’s very simple: if you don’t believe I should have the right to marry the adult of my choice, we simply don’t have the basis for a friendship. Period.

I’m sure you understand.

Oh, wait. I’m sorry. I don’t mean to interrupt. It’s just that I don’t need to hear all of the reasons your religion gives you or your non-peer reviewed research or the research you take out of context or the lies people made up that you bought into without bothering to think about whether or not they were true. I don’t need your sorry ass excuse for love either. Thanks, though.

It’s fine if it makes you feel better. I’m just not gonna listen to it. Why? Well, the main reason is because it’s horse shit.

No, I do listen to reason, like it quite a bit really, but it has to actually be reasonable for me to enjoy it.

Things probably won’t change that much between us. I’ll smile to be polite as I offer you a ride to the polls. I’ll help you out with neighborhood clean up days. I’ll work alongside you at church. I’ll register you to vote and convince others to help you if your rights are being violated. I mean, I have to work for the common good. Not doing that just because I don’t like you is stupid.

We’re clear then? We’re not friends? Great.

So before you open your mouth again for that conversation; you know, the one that starts, “I love my gay friends, but…,” and then you go on to talk about how we shouldn’t be allowed to marry someone we are attracted to or shouldn’t have access to the same rights, responsibilities, and benefits as every other married couple, or shouldn’t be parents and how our children should remain bastards all of their life– right, that one– before you start that conversation, remember our little talk, okay?

Just to be on the safe side, why don’t you practice it with me: “I don’t have gay friends. I don’t have gay friends. I don’t have gay friends.” See, that’s not so hard.

Not your friend,


This letter is in response to this bit of news we got today:

Los Angeles stops issuing marriage licenses to gay couples

The Los Angeles County Registrar’s Office stopped issuing same-sex marriage licenses after a majority of voters approved a ballot measure to eliminate the right of gay couples to marry, the agency said Wednesday.

Voters in California, Arizona and Florida weighed in on constitutional bans on same-sex marriage.

As of 11:30 p.m. ET, 52 percent of voters had approved California’s Proposition 8, with 99 percent of precincts reporting.

The amendment to the state constitution overrides a state Supreme Court ruling in May that legalized same-sex marriage.


Good Job, You’re Fired.

June 26, 2008

From the Dallas Morning News:

The coordinator of Collin County’s teen court program, a one-time political candidate who said his job was put in jeopardy earlier this year because he is gay, appears now to be out of a job.

Yes, that’s right, Justin Nichols, one time Plano city council candidate took a pay-off to leave his job as manager of a teen court adjudication program when it was revealed in The Dallas Voice that he is gay.

Wait, you say, is that legal? Surely it had to with his performance:

“He did an excellent job for the county and he’s decided to move on,” said Mr. Schulte, who declined to comment further.

Terms of the deal were not released.

County Commissioner Phyllis Cole, who cast the lone vote against the agreement, said she could not speak about the matter.

County Judge Keith Self also declined to comment, but said the teen court program would continue.

“I see no energy in the Commissioners Court to stop the teen court,” he said. “It is a successful program.”

So he did a good job, but it was a good job done by a gay man. Oh, and by the way, it is legal to fire someone because they are gay in Collin County, Texas. But thankfully, the same is not true here in Marion County, Indiana thanks to a Human Rights Ordinance we fought hard for a couple of years ago. And THIS is exactly why we did it.

A lot of people will criticize Nichols for taking the pay-off (basically hush money is what it sounds like), but I for one am grateful that he bilked tax-payers for their government’s homophobia. I hope it cost them oodles! Now that it has hit the papers, maybe they’ll be irked enough to vote some of these bozos out of office. Of course, anytime folks pull the “no comment” it makes me wonder what else is not being said. I’ll keep my eyes on this story.

I’m posting this for my brother- and sister-in-law, Ben and Lise, who moved back home to Indiana from Collin County, Texas, just in case he needed one more reason to be away from that bizarre conservative bubble.