A Future Hope
Today an Indiana Senate committee voted to put to a statewide vote a constitutional amendment that eliminates the chance for John and I to protect our relationship the way married couples may. A reporter for the Indianapolis Star said that a group of people in the chambers began singing We Shall Overcome as the vote was taken. The police on hand escorted the protestors out.
I refuse to post a link to the Star, but here’s a quote from the article’s first commentor:
Come confront the overwhelming majority of the people of this state who want you GONE…Why should a church have to marry you if its against their beliefs? because you think they are “mean”??? Screw you..Go ruin another state…
You know, as our church’s wedding coordinator (irony on parade, no?) I’ve learned that no church in the U.S. is under any obligation to marry anyone–even straight people. A pastor can refuse to do it based on your religious views, skin color, the sound of your voice, whatever. So it is obvious that even if we had equal protections, this would not change. The rights would be civil only.
But the commentor is right. The majority of people in Indiana would prefer we just shut up and/or leave (this should sound familiar to a lot of people who have already won hard-fought battles for equality).
Ironically, our pastor stopped by tonight to talk with John and I about ways he might communicate about hope in his sermon on Sunday. He wanted us to think with him about ways people recognize hope. I admitted that I might not be the best person to talk with about this at the moment because I was feeling kind of sad.
I asked him what he thought hope was. He said that he thought of it in terms of the opposite of hopelessness, a grasp on the reality that joy, good and right will come.
I told him that I wasn’t able to go to the committee hearing today, but when I read that observers sang We Shall Overcome in the face of certain defeat, I finally understood the power of that song. It isn’t about now. It is about future and certain hope. And the right thing will happen for us because this is America. But it will take a long fight, because this is America.
So I guess I do have hope. This doesn’t mean John and I and a lot of other families won’t move to a place where the majority of people treat us as equals, but the right thing will happen, someday even here. In the meantime, some lucky state or country can look forward to receiving a bunch of passionate, talented, and intelligent new citizens. Too bad it won’t be Indiana.